In
the Kenyan Society and many societies around the world, marriages in today do
not seem to mean nearly as much as they used to in the past, with divorce
commonly being the first preferential choice in modifying a married couples
problems or troubles. Only
31 percent of marriages survive an affair. In today's society, female
infidelity appears to be on the rise. At least one partner in more than 80
percent of marriages is likely to have an extramarital affair, and her studies
showed that almost half of the cheating partners are women. Individuals who exchange their vows of
matrimony, are not only making a promise to their new partner, but also to God,
and many people seem to take that vow very lightly.
Just
as men have un-remarkably done in the past, in recent years is has become
increasingly more common for women to cheat on their husbands as well. Women
share many of the assonant reasons for cheating on their spouse as men do, the
only difference is that it has somewhat been more acceptable behavior for that
of the male species, than it is of the female species. Just as a man who lies
down with many women is often referred to as a stud, when a woman implements
the same behavior in herself, she is considered nothing more than a paramour,
whore, concubine or worse.
Internet and
Technology making cheating easy
It's
simpler than ever to find an affair online—and the people searching for one are
not always those you'd suspect. Of the 3.3 million users of AshleyMadison.com,
a dating site that unapologetically caters to married people looking to stray,
about 500,000 are newlyweds, according to the site's president, Noel Biderman.
Research
shows that infidelity rates are much higher among cohabiting couples than
married folks who don't live together first. One possible reason: "Often,
a couple that decides to live together isn't as committed," Popenoe says.
And if that's the attitude, he adds, it doesn't necessarily change just because
you get married. The possible result: In fairly short order, one of you—most
likely him—is on the prowl.
Then
there are sites like Facebook, where anyone from exes to one-night stands can
find you. What starts as innocent e-flirting (which 20 percent of adults who
used social-networking sites in 2008 admitted to in a study by the Pew Internet
and American Life Project) can quickly get out of hand.
Why Do Women Cheat?
There
are two main kinds of cheating for women. Emotional cheating may occur without
actual sexual involvement. This commonly happens with a man who is close to
her, such as a co-worker. These days, it may also happen in an online
relationship. Physical cheating generally involves some form of intimacy, which
can range from flirty touching to sex. A woman who is cheating on her
significant other may commit both types of cheating concurrently.
Women are more likely to cheat in
relationships where they feel that their emotional needs aren't being met and
may also cheat because their sexual needs aren't being satisfied. Common
reasons women give for cheating include feeling lonely, feeling bored in the
relationship or to increase one's own self esteem. Some women also seem to
crave that "new relationship feel" and cheat on their husbands just
for the rush of new romance. Others cheat in retaliation to their partner doing
the same.
